Why you should give your New Year’s resolutions the flick (and how to make changes that actually stick)
Here are my best tips to starting 2015 off with a bang, no New Year’s resolutions included.
Instead of writing what you want for this year, start by reflecting on all the amazing things that happened last year. Start the year feeling positive and grateful for how far you have come, so you can really appreciate what you are capable of.
Next, ask yourself some questions to ensure that you know what you want, and that what you want aligns with your core values. Take the time to really reflect on the questions, and write them down if possible. Then you can revisit them next year to stay accountable.
These are the questions I like to ask myself at the beginning of each year:
- What am I most proud of?
- What have been my greatest achievements to date?
- What is the greatest lesson I have learnt?
- What do I love to do in my free time?
- When do I feel most inspired/alive?
- What do I need to forgive? What guilt am I holding on to?
- What are my greatest strengths?
- When am I happiest?
- What things are most important to me?
- What would I most like to change & why?
- What has stopped me achieving my goals in the past?
- Why do I want to make change now?
- What would give my live meaning?
- In 5 years from now, if I could be anywhere where would it be?
It may take some time to go through all the questions, but it really is worth it to properly understand what it is you want and how you can get it. Set aside half an hour, make yourself a cup of tea and sit down with a journal to document your answers.
After reflecting on the above questions, you are ready to start setting the wheels in motion to make some real changes. Think about what it is you really want (it may be a few things). Write them out into sentences in this format:
“I want….. so that…….”
For example: I want to lose weight so that I can take control of my health and feel confident.
To figure out why you want what you want, ask yourself why it is important to you to reach your goal. What will happen when you reach your goal? What would change in your life and why would this be positive?
Now break your goals down into tangible actions you can do throughout the year, to help get you there.
Start with what you can do this week.
On Monday I will book a session with a personal trainer.
On Wednesday I will go shopping to buy more fresh food and produce.
On Saturday I will start reading that book I have been meaning to read.
Then, think about where you want to be 6 months from now.
In three months I am exercising regularly, eating a more balanced diet and setting aside time for myself more often to do the things I want to do.
Lastly, write down where you are going to be at the end of the year. This is your big vision statement for the year. It should be personal, reflect your values, but also be realistic and specific. Make sure you use strong, affirmative statements such as "I am…” and "I have…”
All that is left now is to realise you have the capability to achieve anything you want. With a New Year comes a clean slate, make it the start of something magical!
Make this year your best year yet!
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